5/30/2009

What Russian women don’t like in western men?

For some guys, it seems that making contact with a woman online means that it’s time to get their joystick out, photograph it and send it to her. And majority of Russian women do not like to talk about sex with strangers, if you exchanged a few emails, you are still a stranger to her, she might talk to you about sex, but ask your question nicely and step back the moment you sense her negative reaction, do not push it, do not get all offensive, do not be rude. One thing to remember, if she does not want to talk about sex, or have virtual sex with you, it does not mean, she does not like sex, she simply thinks it is too private and too intimate to talk about it after a few online dates. You will have your “pillow talks”, but later, once she is comfortable with you.

Women spend time writing profiles about interests, likes, dislikes and they expect others to read them! If she has stated in her profile, she is looking for someone between 45 and 55 y.o. and you are 58 and very truly interested and tell her politely that you are aware of her age criteria, but could not help wondering if it is possible for her to look at your profile, even though you are a couple years older - she might and might even write you back. But if she is 25 and looking for a guy up to 35 and he is 70 and plans on bombing her with fixed messages and own letters? What will she think, I might better not even go there! Read profiles please, respect others and they will respect you.

If you are seriously interested in a girl, come and visit her soon, women think that after a few months of daily emails, chats, phone calls and finally “I love you” phrase, man should pack his bags and come to see her. We all know, life can be very difficult sometimes, and everyone has jobs and responsibilities, it is quite expensive to travel somewhere far, especially overseas, but when you joined the site and checked the box “marriage” in your profile, you probably already thought about it. If you know you are not able to go and meet your dates, do yourself a favor, check the box “friendship”, meet new friends and play it by ear, otherwise majority of women will think you are a player, some sweet kind soul might wait a year or two for you to eventually make up your mind, but she will end up marrying somebody else and you will still be Single!

5/29/2009

Why western men are so attracted to Russian women?

1. Western feminism
2. Men want companions, but not competitors.

Eastern European women like to be women, they are feminine. Well, cooking, housekeeping etc. is not a primary concern, it's the attitude of women that makes them so attractive to western men.

Although there are some men, who think that their russian wives should be extremely grateful for arriving in the US, such men expect them to clean, to cook, take care of them and their kids from previous marriages etc. and not to ask for much in return, thats why they bring Russian women to the US. They definitely were misinformed about Russian women and Russia. And usually what they finally get is a divorce right after a woman gets her Green card.

5/28/2009

Russian woman got upset with her boyfriend

A Russian woman got so upset when her boyfriend tried to leave her, she got him drunk and blew up his penis with firecrackers.

Kira V. had lived with her boyfriend, Alik for about 2 years when she started asking him about marriage. Alik, who had already been married before refused to consider marrying a second time and told her he would rather go back to his ex wife and child than marry someone else.

When Alik started moving his things out of the home they shares, Kira convinced him to stay for a ‘farewell dinner.’ The two dined together and got to drinking heavily. Alik finally passed out from drinking excessively. That’s when Kira attached firecrackers to his penis and blew them up.

Alik was rushed to the hospital in critical condition from the blast and remains in intensive care where doctors are fighting to save his life.

Kira has been taken into custody by police and even if the man survives, she could face up to 12 years in prison.

5/27/2009

Marriages between Russian women and American men

Marriages between Russian women and American men are very successful and harmonious, says Olga Makhovskaya, the senior research assistant at the Psychology Institute in Russia's Academy of Sciences says. When an American man switches from the model of American family where husband and wife are partners equal in rights to the model of an Orthodox family, he thus raises his own significance. In Orthodox families men are given more authority and are more respected. It is certainly an advantage for a man and raises his social and psychological status. In a word, American men seem to have tired of the feminism propagated by American women, and it is frequent that they seek Russian women to start families.

Russian wives in America give up the traditional model of the Russian Orthodox family which relieves them of a heavy burden of responsibility and gives a chance to have a normal life in a family where the range of responsibilities is more definite for them: children, family affairs and housekeeping. At that, Russian women enjoy more attention and support from husbands.

As psychologists say, now Russian men undervalue the essence of family. The whole of the burden, housekeeping, upbringing of children, earning of money are shifted onto women. And, at the time when Russian women have so much responsibilities, their husbands spend their time dozing in front of TV sets in desperate attempts to find out the meaning of life and to understand the truth of the universe. They merely disregard everyday problems that are essential for their families as they consider the above mentioned idle thinking to be of higher importance.

That is why, as Olga Makhovskaya thinks relations in families between Russian and American partners are more harmonious. Each party gets what it wants to have. Husbands get authority and status, and wives are given, in exchange, peace in family and well-being. "Families of this kind where husbands are Americans and women are Russians prove to be long-living, as the roles in the family are clearly distributed and the mechanism operates good, although these are mixed families. In such families each of the couple is ready to make concessions and on the whole, wonderfully performs the role."

In addition, as researches held by Olga Makhovskaya reveal, marriages between Chinese men and Russian women are also very successful. There are tens of thousands of such marriages in Russia's Primorye region in the Far East. Chinese men are hard-working, they don't abuse in alcohol drinking and bring their wages home. In a word, they have lots of advantages by contrast with Russian men." It is sad, but the researches don't mention for whom Russian men suit wonderfully.

pravda .ru

5/25/2009

Mistakes Men Make While Dating Russian Women

* Sending a woman money: This is a huge no-no. Any Russian or FSU (Former Soviet Union) woman who asks you for money is just trying to scam you. She will either bleed you until you are dry (if she is very slick) or just disappear after a quick score (if you are lucky). An honest woman would not ask; she has too much pride. Besides, she has already lived for 20+ years without your “help.” Why does she need you now? A Russian woman does not even consider the two of you to be in a “real” relationship until you have met in person! Would you give money to American girl that you had just met? Would you ask her for money? Think about it. It is just not smart and sets you up for trouble (and makes the ladies think it is easy and encourages more of the same behavior).

* Not being prepared to visit: You did know that in order to bring her over here as a fiancee, you must visit her, in her country? Yes, it is the only way she will be able to get a visa to come to the USA. For more details on the visa and immigration process click here. Honestly, though, an FSU woman, if she is serious, will want to meet you. You must be ready and prepared to visit her at some point in the future. It has been my observation (by watching and talking with both western men and FSU women) that a woman will generally give you about 6 months to decide you will visit. Then a few more months for you to get yourself over there. Make her wait longer than this and she will think you are not serious and probably move on to someone she thinks is! Just be ready: emotionally, physically, and monetarily.

* Falling in love with a photo: Do not place too much emphasis on her photo. At least not until you know more details about her and her photos. Perhaps they are old. I once had a woman tell me her photos were over 2 years old! Her hair color and style was changed and it looked like she had gained about 20 pounds! Know what? It was my fault, because I did not ask her! Generally, the women of the FSU look even better in person than in their photos—and that is a huge compliment! But not always, and you do not marry a photo, you marry a real person. Get to know her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her dreams, desires, passions, hobbies, etc… Try to understand (as they say in Russia) her inner world.

* Not doing your proper research: By this I mean finding an honest and reliable dating or marriage agency, finding out all you can about your woman, learning about the geography, history, culture and language of the country she is from. These are all crucial to your success. You need to find an honest service. Then you need to educate yourself on other ways of contacting your woman. This will continue to ensure that your agency is honest, and that you are indeed writing to a real woman! Without doing your research you are just placing your bets (paying your money) and taking your chances.

* Sending her the wrong photos: You do not need to send her photos of your house, car or other prized possession. If you do, I guarantee you will attract the wrong type of woman. An honest woman from the FSU is more concerned about your heart than she is about your possessions. If you focus on your money and things, she will probably assume you are a shallow and insecure person. Focusing on your possessions only seems to work on American women, the most shallow and insecure women in the world! This is not America, you do not need to impress these ladies with things! Show them your sensitive side, what you like to do, how you think and feel.

* Thinking she will be your trophy wife: These ladies are tough as nails. They have to deal with drunk husbands/boyfriends who think nothing about going out and finding a mistress, don’t want to support their family (so she goes out to work), and generally most of the decisions and hard choices fall to the ladies. She will show you her claws if she thinks you are using her just as a “trophy wife.” Find someone to be your lover, wife, and equal partner, not someone you can dominate and control. For most men, I would say that even if they tried it would not be possible to control a Russian woman anyway—she is strong-willed and fiercely independent.

* Not asking her questions: You are looking for a wife, not someone to just pass the time. Well, then again… Seriously, these are serious and honest women (for the most part) and they deserve the same respect. Besides, if you do not ask her questions to find out more about her, her family, dreams, goals, etc… she will sooner or later figure out that you are not serious. Then she will dump you, or just see what she can get out of you! If you are truly looking for a wife, you should be asking her all kinds of questions! Not only ask many different questions, but ask them several times in various ways, just to see if you get consistent answers (another good way to protect yourself from a scam).

does russian women dating work?

……… Hi, here you have our, me, Gordon, and my wife Irina, love story. It all started on one russian women dating site and I am ready to share it with you.

So I had just broken up with my girlfriend and had recently moved to Perth from Melbourne to live with my parents. I didn’t know anybody in the area, so I decided to go to some dating service or matchmakers’ agency and place an ad to meet people. I did not even have a thought about dating somebody from abroad, I started locally. But when I came across LuckyLovers in my searches, I put an ad there too along with other sites. It all went well, I met several women from Perth and that broken relationships were slowly moving to the past. Usually I described myself as ironic and weird. About a month later, I received a response from Ir4ik82 on this russian dating site, I almost forgot about… with just a simple two-line letter “hi there, I’m ironic and weird too so what a great luck we are so far away from each other”. We started writing to each other back and forth for more than two months while the life was going on here.

So while the time passed, we started missing each other and left messages more and more often, very friendly and not serious ones back and forth for some time. Then one day we both were online at the same time, we had never chatted before, so we both were happy to “meet’ each other in such a way. We talked and asked and answered usual questions and all was going well till something happened with internet service and we disconnected.
The next day I was checking my messages and there was one from Irina, worrying about where I went to, if I got bored or if she said something wrong? Nothing special about a letter, but I felt something so special inside and wanted to meet her online ASAP…That day I wrote her a message where I asked her to arrange meeting to continue our chat. As soon as we met again, I got her phone number and called. Her voice was so sweet and gentle and I felt like I was melting and wanted to listen to her more and more.
We talked and talked and I felt that we both were starting to fall for each other. My mom and dad were against me being so involved into that kind of relationships. They repeated constantly that online romances were just games…it did not bother me much at that moment though. There were times I lived from chat to chat.
I saw her pictures and I found her so pretty that just could not wait to see her in reality. But I had so many old memories of loves that fell apart that I was really afraid this would be just one more. But I gathered my courage and I told her I’ve got plane tickets to fly to Belarus where she lived. She was so excited that all my fears gone. We met in Grodno and I saw her eyes for the first time. All went well and after numerous pains and aches she lives finally with me here in Australia.
What I can say, that is I’m a happy man. I have the most precious thing a person could wish – I have my lovely wife - my Irina!!!
Bye,
Gordon and Irina

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sweet story, huh?!

5/20/2009

truth about russian women

Every single russian dating agency on the Internet features young, beautiful, sexy Russian Women on their main pages. Beautiful to look at, alluring, smiling, just waiting for you to take them as a bride. and the key word here is YOUNG.

will you believe an agency promising you that these fine young Russian Women will be happy to marry a man much older then they are? Is it possible? Now what about young women in your own country? Will they fall in love and marry a man who us 20-30 year older? if he is Bill Gates, very possibly… otherwise, does a regular Jack who is 50 years old has a chance with a beautiful cheerleader next door?

You need to understand that this is a business. All those agencies promoting myths about their clients young russian women and older american or european men living happily ever after, are looking for you to spend some money on their websites.

In fact, in Russia, it is very seldom that you will meet a family or couple, where the husband is more than 3-5 years older. Do you believe in magic pills to help you lose 20 pounds in 2 days with no harm done? Do you believe that you can make thousands of dollars working from home sorting somebody’s mail? same thing goes with dating and marriage. Those businesses attempt to use your belief in magical things happening to you very much to their advantage. If you are interested in a Russian woman, at least be wise enough and choose one who will match your life interests and your age.