6/25/2009

RUSSIAN WOMEN Do They Make Good Wives?

I discovered this article by accident. I am not the author of this article!

"... There are a number of agencies that will provide almost any American man
with a female in Russia who wants to come to America.

After a few letters and telephone conversations one is usually ready to
bring the Russian lady to America. If all is OK, one often gets
married within a month or two of the arrival of the lady in America (or
a day or two). The cost of a round trip ticket (it is necessary to buy
a round trip ticket) varies from about $1200 to $2500. The agency fee
is in addition to this and can be as high as $5000, but is often as low
as $500.

The various agencies are the fastest, but also the most
expensive. There are also simply writing clubs where by you can write
to any number of a list of ladies. You could also put your own ad in a
Russian Newspaper. There are American advertising agencies that know
how to do this. If you go to Russia you will be able to find a wife in
a week or two as there are thousands of women who want to come to
America. So I won't say much more about this end of it, since this
letter is about Russian women.

I married two Russian women: We have only had free movement between
Russia and America for about 5 years or so, so having married two
Russian women was quite a trick, and not something I would do again.

To determine if Russian women will make good wives the first
thing that one should look at is the Russian culture. One might think
that any kind of up bringing can be over come. One often sees people
from the ghettoes doing quite well in life, even when they were in the
ghetto their entire childhood. However, I don't think this is true of
Russian women. I believe that they will never over come their Russian
up bringing. The basic reason for this is simply that they don't want
to over come their up bringing, while those who come from the ghettoes
usually want to change to get the better things in life that they
desire. The Russian women think that the way they are is absolutely
ideal, and it never occurs to them that there are better ways in life.

In 1992 I traveled to Russia where I met my first Russian
wife. I spent several weeks in Moscow and traveled to a number of
other Russian cities. I was invited to many Russian homes to eat and
to stay the night. I was able to see the Russian culture first hand.
They were anxious to show me how they lived. The Russian people now
love Americans more than any other nationality. No matter where I went
I was welcome. In restaurants where there were lines, I was always
taken to the head of the line, if they found out that I was American.
When I had occasion to go to the doctor, I was taken beyond the line to
a private room for treatment (no charge for treatment and medicine).
It was fabulous treatment for an average American who had never been a
celebrity. I thought that maybe Russian wives might like me the same.

When I married my Russian wives it had never occurred to me to
look at the differences in our cultures. Had I looked, I might not
have been so impulsive. So let us look at the important cultural
differences that will affect a marriage directly. In Russia it is
unacceptable to show any kind of affection in public. Lovers do not
hold hands in public. They do not put their arms around one another.
Mothers and Fathers never hug or kiss their children except maybe on
New Year's night. But this is not really the problem, the real problem
is that they are taught never to show affection and emotion.

In Russia there is no such thing as double beds. Husbands and
wives never sleep together. Not even one family out of a thousand has
double beds. All sleep in separate single beds. Russian women have
never even considered sleeping night after night with a husband.

You have no idea how deeply rooted these teachings and customs
have become. Russia is more like another planet than another country.
No other country in the world are people taught to disregard affection
and love like in Russia. For 80 years the communists controlled
Russia. No one was safe. All were taught that they must tattle tale
on one another about anything that was wrong. A wife could tell on her
husband, if he wasn't doing something right. Quite often he would just
never come home (he was shot). To lose a spouse in Russia wasn't the
same as here. The government paid for everything. If the husband
never comes home, so what, the wife still gets paid. Children were
encourage to tattle tale on their parents. If they said something that
was not acceptable to the KGB, the parent simply didn't come home
(again, they were shot).

Love in Russia really became extinct. I know, we say love is a
natural thing and anyone can fall in love. That may be true,
but in a society that does not recognize love as valuable, one soon
learns to take care of himself and to not get too close to anyone. One
must be careful not to get to attached to someone, one day he might not
return.

When the KGB was closed less than 10 years ago, the reporters
were shown into the KGB building. In one large room in that building
was a list of 10 million Russians that had been shot by the KGB. These
people were simply listed as "Enemies of the State." None were given a
trial of any kind. The person at the local KGB office simply said,
"Shoot this guy," and he was shot. It wasn't even a hearing. Someone
tattled on his neighbor for any one of a hundred things and the local
KGB shot him. The idea of course, was to make the society a better
place, but it didn't work that way.

So how does this all affect Russian women. Well they are
trained from birth to not show love and affection. They know that
showing too much love could even result in being shot. To love someone
who doesn't come home one evening can break your heart. Best not to
love much at all. Russian women often talk about love, but
unfortunately and sadly, they do not know what love is. They will
certainly never demonstrate their love with kisses and hugs. They
might for a few days, but never for any period of time. They don't
even like kisses and hugs.

I met many Russian women in Russia. In fact, during my stay
there I constantly had at least two Russian women with me and sometimes
three. They were easy to meet once they knew I was American. They
were anxious to please. They even asked me for sex. The idea behind
all the attention and sex was that they wanted to come to America. The
Russian woman that I finally brought back with me did just that. She
pretended that she just couldn't resist me. She told me she wanted me
and then went with me to my hotel room. Others did the same.

Sex with a Russian woman beyond about the third time is about
like making love to a dead horse. They don't take part except
to lay still and let it happen. I had several Russian women tell me
that they lived with their husbands for 10 years without ever kissing
them. They had the dead horse sex, but they never kissed their
husbands in the process of sex. You may think that could happen in
isolated cases, but I talked to enough Russian women and saw enough of
them to tell you that it is normal. Kissing, you see, is showing
affection and love, and that is not part of a Communist State. Of
course, communism is dead, and the Russians hate communism, but it will
be years before they understand that the fear of love is a communist
thing.

Russian men are all macho. They all must be brave. Showing
love for a woman is a weakness. They talk love, but they don't show
it. Many Russian men are so brave (macho) that they don't look both
ways when crossing the street. Looking isn't macho. Thus many get
killed by cars. Of course, the men in the cars are macho too, thus
they pretend they don't see the people on foot. Macho for men is the
thing in Russia. Macho sex is to take the woman by the hand, push her
on the bed, and make love to her, and then go back out and drink
another drink. Women in Russia expect it.

Russian women think it is normal to not show love. Thus you
will not be able to change them. They don't want to change. They
want to remain the same. They know that kissing and hugs and other
demonstrations of love are dangerous things. Of course, they will
demonstrate affection at first. They even do that in Russia in
courtship, to a small extent, but when the one week honey moon is over,
don't expect kisses or hugs. As far as sex is concerned, they like it,
and they want it. You are expected to climb on and do your thing as
often as you like, but don't expect them to take part other than to do
what they are told. If you are like 80% of the American men, that
might be OK, but if you want a woman who shows love and affection
during sex and who sometimes kisses you and even touches you, then
don't try a Russian wife.

Look at Russia now. They are killing one another as I write
this letter. Over 110,000,000 Russians have been killed by
Russians in the last 80 years. Can you see how a country can be devoid
of love. That much killing of one's own country men brings about men
and women who show very little and can have very little love. For 150
years in America we have not killed one another on vast scales like
Russia. The killing and the communist teaching simply changes the way
one looks at and handles love.

Russian ladies are almost all very beautiful. The cold climate
and the wet weather produces beautiful women. They are 99% all of the
white race. They are not oriental. Russians drive on the right side
of the road. Their light switches turn light on in the up position.
Their school year is the same as ours. For what ever reason a greater
percentage of their customs follow ours than most other countries in
the world.

So do you want a Russian woman for a wife? It depends upon
what you want. If you want a beautiful woman who is a good
show piece then go for it. But if you are expecting any gratitude for
your spending money and time then forget it. They believe that their
husbands owe it all to them. The state gave them their money, it
didn't come from their husbands. So they expected the husband to do
all those other things. They will expect you to do everything and buy
them everything and they will seldom, if ever say thanks. They never
say please, or thanks. It makes them feel degraded to do such a
thing.

You can train them to do say thanks, but never expect a kiss
or a hug when you come home.

Any Russian woman who was brought up within the borders of
Russia will be the way I have described here. I am sorry that all that
killing and terrible things took place, and I feel sorry for all those
people who will never know real love or even real affection. I feel
sorry for all those children who never receive kisses from their
parents, but feeling sorry would not make me marry another Russian
woman. My life only become tolerable with both of my Russian wives
when I quit trying to create any kind of love. As long as I furnished
the shelter, food, clothing, TV, and other niceties everything was
fine, but never ask for a kiss. She will prefer to sleep in a separate
bed like her parents did and like all Russians do. Russian women will
sleep with you if you insist, but all married people in Russia sleep in
separate beds, and so if you marry a Russian woman, her parents slept
in sperate beds, so she will prefer separate beds.

A Russian woman will live with you, will take what you give
her, will never say thanks unless you train her to and will
show little affection, but will demonstrate no affection after the
first two or three weeks. She will live taking everything you give
only as a friend might, except the friend would show gratitude. You
can have a very pleasant relationship if you are willing to have only a
friendly relationship and are willing to finance her totally plus you
can have sex, and in her own way she may even love you a little and she
will even tell you so, but she will certainly never demonstrate it.

As far as my two Russian wives were concerned our sex was
completely unacceptable. After the first three weeks, it was
expected that when I wanted sex she would just lay their and I would do
all the action. But although I never had a sexual problem my whole
life, I could not for the life of me just make sex that way. I
expected at least a few kisses during sex. When I wouldn't perform
both wives asked me to sleep in another bed as they couldn't sleep with
someone who didn't give them good sex. When I suggested a marriage
councilor and sexual consultant the first wife flatly refused, and the
second one agreed, but refused to accompany me on the day of the
appointment. When I brought her literature back from the councilor,
she refused to read it.

It is extremely unfortunate that sex is so repressed in
Russia. When I was there many people told me that it was wrong
to have sex when I was not married to a woman. They explained to me
that any woman that came to my hotel room, even if she were single, was
subject to being arrested and taken to jail. There are no judges or
juries. There is only the local police. If someone calls and says
that you are having sex in a hotel room and are not married the local
police can come arrest you if they wish, and that's what has happened
for the last 80 years. The police make their own decision on what to
do with you. So you see, sex has been badly repressed in Russia. I
assume that the communists were trying to keep the population down, but
what ever the reason it does exist.

When you try to create a loving home with a Russian woman she
feels that you put her at risk. She feels threatened. She feels that
it is wrong. Somewhere in her subconscious mind she is afraid that to
show you love will bring the wrath of the communists. She cannot
tolerate it. The fact that the communists no longer exist means
nothing to her subconscious mind. She will become angry, upset, and
impossible to live with. It is very sad that it is this way, but
that's the way it is. The Russians are beginning to dig their way out
of this situation, but at this time any American man who marries a
Russian woman is probably biting off a great deal more than he can
chew.

If one did marry a Russian woman he should have her agree to at
least a year of counseling after the marriage. Russian women are like
alcoholics, they will have to realize that something is wrong before
they can be helped and I doubt that a Russian woman will ever realize
that. In her mind there is too much at stake. It's cultures in direct
conflict, yours and hers.

So now you know. Good luck. ..."